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Happy Home Life Tip #22

We cannot control our children, but we can certainly influence them.

Bribing, nagging, threatening or punishing in the hope of controlling your child’s behavior will never create a positive long-term effect; you’ll just create an adversarial relationship and miss out on the opportunity to create a close parent-child connection. All any child needs (yes, even adult ones!) is to feel safe, loved, respected, and a valuable member of your family. 

 So, if you want to build a more loving relationship, stop trying to control or change your child.

Love your child unconditionally, each and every day.

Spend time with your children and celebrate what makes them unique.

Let them know you’re proud of them and believe they can figure anything out for themselves…but that you’d also be happy to help, if asked. 

Be the kind of person you hope your child will want to grow up to be. 

Focus on controlling yourself, and be a good influence.

Hugs,

Krista

PS: If you don’t believe me that you can raise wonderful, thoughtful, and compliant children without bribery or punishment, I’d love to teach you how.

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Photo Story: As I arranged these flowers, in a ceramic pitcher I made, and put them in the kitchen my husband and I just finished, at our historic Vermont farm (the 7th home we’ve restored), it made we wonder how much our lifestyle has influenced our sons…

They’re all creative, resilient, interested, lovers of nature and animals, great cooks, incredibly hard-workers, and willing to try new things.